When You Can’t Do All The Things
Do you ever feel like you’re not doing enough? You’re not a proud workaholic and most days you barely have enough energy to get through your day and write a few pages, never mind hustling to grow your social media following and sell your books in all the myriad of ways we are supposed to.
Yeah. Me too.
There are days I feel like I can do all the things. On days like that, I would push myself to do, well, all the things. To hustle and get scrappy. I figured I’d sleep when I’m dead. That’s the saying, right?
And then the next day, I’d crash. Barely able to get out of bed. The exhaustion lasted days. Everything I did on that day I’d felt so amazing, like I was finally getting on top of things, become a distant memory. I ended up falling further behind.
I started to believe I couldn’t write, I shouldn’t write, and I shouldn’t even bother trying because I couldn’t do it all like everyone else.
Raise your hand if you can relate.
Frustrating isn’t it?
Believe in yourself
One thing I’ve learned, and want to share with you in this blog post, is that everyone’s path is different. When we find our path, keep our focus on it instead of everyone else’s, and off of what everyone else tells us should be our path, we take pressure off ourselves. We realize we don’t have to do all the things. And it turns out and we have the energy to do what is important to us.
Finding Your Path
It is difficult to accept that we can’t do the same things as other writers. We can’t put the same amount of energy into social media posts and advertising to build our platform. It is easy, though, to see what others are doing and make ourselves believe that we should be doing it too, and if we’re not, we’re failures.
To find your path, stop looking at what everyone else does. Stop comparing what they are doing to what you are doing.
Instead of focusing on what others are doing, figure out your limits, and your capabilities.
I’ve heard this referred to as either having enough bandwidth., or spoons. If you’ve never heard of spoon theory before, I highly recommend you read this article by Christine Miserandino who originated the theory.
Maybe you have a greater capacity for social media platform building itranforiositing. That’s ok. Write a page or two then go on social media. Just write consistently, so heat your writing platform has a season for existing.
If you’re the opposite, write more, and focus less on your social media. Pick one or two channels, the ones you connect with most, and build those, instead of thinking you have to be on all of them.
Walking Your Path
When you know what you’re capable of, and just how much you can do in a day, then pace yourself.
Even on those good days, when you feel like I can do all the things, don’t. Do some, of course, just not all of them. Don’t push yourself beyond your normal limit. There is no “just one more thing,” because that extra push drains your energy resources for the next day, leading to exhaustion. Pace yourself. In the long run, you’ll get more done if you spread it out.
Kind of like studying each day the week leading up to an exam, instead of cramming the night before.
Endurance On Your Path
Pacing yourself, walking your own writing path, is by no means permission to give in, or give up, and not pursue.the same writing dreams as your friends who are able to hustle.
Focus on. your path. Your rate of productivity. You don’t have to do the same things as anyone else. By focusing on your path, you will get to where you want to go.
You’ll also believe in yourself and your writing ability a lot more.